Communicating With Your Man


*** Disclaimer, in no way am I perfect at communicating with The Cowboy***

Communication is key.

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard that within my life. I always imagined the truth behind it but once I fell in true love I realized how important it is to communicate with your man. And I’m not talking about his side of half of communicating, I’m talking about our half as women. I realized while having a long distance relationship with The Cowboy that I am in no way the best communicator.

So here’s the mission ladies; to  communicate better with our men by changing our methods and ideas instead of theirs. 

I’ve compiled a list of my lessons learned, and tips that will help on our journey of better communication.

Keep God First.

Okay ladies, this is the tip that has helped The Cowboy and I the most. We’re not perfect we mess up, we hurt each other with lack of communication, but at the end of every day we bring it all to Christ. Each night since The Cowboy and I started dating he has prayed over us. I truly believe that when your relationship is centered around Christ, all things will grow to be better, including communication.

Listen Without The Intent To Respond.

I always try to listen to The Cowboy, and everyone, but my brain is constantly trying to figure out how to respond, or “fix” the problem. Listening without the intent to respond gives you the ability to pay attention to the details, the body language, the things unsaid. This also allows your man to finish his thoughts without being interrupted by your opinions. Just like us, sometimes men just want to talk without anyone cutting them off, or putting their two cents in.

Don’t Fight To Win.

It’s inevitable you and your man are going to get in a spat, no matter how “in love” you are, and no matter how long you have been together. During our marriage counseling our pastor gave us this tip, ask your self are you fighting to win? I never thought about it this way before, and now when I get the urge to use fighting words I ask myself this question.

Communicate The Way He Needs.

Everyone communicates differently, and everyone receives communication differently. Learning how your man communicates best will save you a lot of time and energy! Speak to him the way he receives it, and communicate your love the way he needs it. Once this concept is placed into action the tension of communication should lessen.

Don’t Take The Small Things For Granted.

It’s all in the title ladies. Those little good morning texts, the sweet kisses, the “I love you” in his eyes. Those are all forms of communication we tend to take for granted. Return the small acts of love/communication in his favorite way. Leave him encouraging notes, send him texts during his work week. Everything adds up and is a reminder that you love him.


I hope these tips have helped you as much as they have helped me! I truly believe you can never be good enough at communication, and that there is always something to work on. And that’s okay!

Do you have any communication tips? I would love to hear them, leave a comment below and help a sister out!


2 thoughts on “Communicating With Your Man

  1. Loved this post, Stephanie! Another good tip, realize that his lack of communication isn’t intended to hurt you. Nathan and I have had to learn this one because I always feel like we have to communicate every detail of life… and he just doesn’t. His lack of sharing his feelings and thoughts isn’t driven out of a desire to hurt my feelings or keep things from me… It comes from his lack of NEED to share all of those things. Guys and girls communicate differently at times and once we understand that, it’s a game changer!

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